Showing posts with label Woman Unlimited- Core. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Woman Unlimited- Core. Show all posts

Saturday, December 4, 2010

NOTES, LISTS AND JOB JARS

I am a compulsive list maker.  It started when I was quite young.  I am sure I was heavily influenced by my mother and her sister.  Long before sticky notes became fashionable both these women had endless notes and typewritten lists.  My aunt even makes notes to remind herself of her notes!

Notes were used in our family for other purposes too! I remember once when I was very young- I must have been around 8 or 9.  I was very angry with my dad- I must have put a note on my door or something.  In the morning I woke up to notes all over the mirror in the bathroom- smile you are on candid camera!  Stuff like that.  My dear old dad...secretly I smiled to myself.  Notes can be more than just lists...I used to stick notes in my partner and children's lunch bags...hmmm I should do that again!  Just be careful what you put in your man's/partner's lunch!  I found out the hard way when his work colleagues rooted through his lunch looking for food- and discovered the note!

When I was in my 20's and a single mom, I honed my organizational skills.  Once my closest friend stayed at my apartment while I was away.  She left me notes on all the cupboards with funny comments about how insanely organized my cupboards were!  Another time, during one of my many moves, my mother in law came to town and was helping me settle in.  She wanted to do something useful so I asked her to take all the spice bottles and put them on the turnaround in alphabetical order.  She gave me a funny look and later asked me if I was kidding.  Absolutely not!  :)

I realized in my early 20's,  as a single mom, I had to come up with a system that would not leave me so overwhelmed by all the tasks and activities.  I also wanted to find a way to trick my brain into doing the tasks/activities which I continued to procrastinate doing.

I came up with the idea of a Job Jar.  Every time I found something that had to be done around the house, and, would take at least 1-2 hours or more, I would write it on a piece of paper, fold it up and put it in the Job Jar.  I also started one for the kids.  I would list the chores, stuff them in their jar and let them pick.

I set up a Job Jar for outside work (summer/winter), inside work, jobs the kids could do and my many craft projects.  I also kept a notebook with a numbered list of all the tasks/activities.  Once a month I would sit down and plan out what I had to do in terms of my career, my kids, the house etc.  I would then pull a slip from the appropriate Job Jar and would do the following:

Saturday, November 27, 2010

FIRST REAL SNOW

Our first foray into winter.  It came savagely.  Howling winds, blowing snow, freezing rain.  Yet, what is not to love? 

I had to go out eventually- one does have to eat.  I bundled up in my windpants, anorak jacket, my knit scarf, warm warm mitts, my big sorrell boots...and loved every minute of being in the wildness of it all.

As my car warmed up enough for the slabs of ice and snow to slide off, I shoveled what little snow had accumulated.  It was an easy shovel job- the snow was more powdery than heavy.  I breathed the air- feeling the snowflakes catch in my nose and throat.  So very cool and refreshing.  The snow melted on my cheeks and I could feel them go rosy red.

As I headed out to do errands I felt such gratitude for the beauty before me.  The snow dresses up the world.  The snow forces everyone to slow down. 

While waiting at a light I was transported back to some of my winters in the NWT.  Evenings so crisp with the cold- greenish northern lights like flowing ribbons in the sky- the stars twinkling- everything feeling so close.  My favourite evenings were at 30 below zero.  The absolute best time to breathe the cold air into your lungs...And the best time to split wood.  The kids would be sleeping...I would steal out feeling the sheer joy in the exercise and the time alone.  Due to the dryness and cold, the wood split swiftly as the axe hit.

Snow and winter mean warm crackling fires; hot chocolate; curled on the couch with the kids watching movies- eating popcorn.  Or reading.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

THE PUBLIC LIBRARY- STILL NEEDED

We have a most remarkable Public Library.  We go often- at least once if not twice a week.  As a mother, it allows me an evening or a weekend day "date" with my children.  I have been taking them to the Library since they were small children.  When we lived in Fort Smith, NWT, Canada, we not only went to the library for the books, but to see authors such as Robert Munsch.

We may think that libraries are no longer necessary in this age of technology and the internet.  But take a moment and think about what going to the library teaches your children:

Friday, April 16, 2010

ANOTHER FRIDAY NIGHT

Our movie nights have changed over the past month. I think that it has a lot to do with the kids getting older. We still sit around the "round table" in our living room, eat pizza while watching a movie. It is what we are watching that has changed.


Lately, the kids have wanted to get tv series to watch. We go to the library once a week and they pick DVD's from the various series they enjoy- Bones, Holmes on Homes and the Dog Whisperer. We do not get cable tv or satellite, so the Dog Whisperer is new to me. Yes, I have heard of him, but never watched a show. I have enjoyed these shows so much I have actually kept watching the dvd after my children have gone to bed!

Of course, I have already been told that due to Cesar's shows, my kids are more than capable of looking after THEIR dog...hint hint...

Absolutely intriguing! Being an energy worker myself (Reiki), it is wonderful to see Cesar Millan talk about the importance of not only the dog owner’s energy, but the dog’s energy as well. It is important that our own energy radiates around us and effects everyone.  If we exude positive, confident, assertive energy others will act differently around us.

It is great for us to sit down as a family to watch such entertaining shows that also provide life long learning for my children.  And there is no violence!  Cesar is clearing teaching self esteem, assertiveness, calmness and living in the NOW- for humans.

It has been a long while since I have posted. March was a busy and challenging month on many fronts. I cannot wait to get back to my daily posts. I look forward to providing interesting content as well as profiles of Unlimited Woman.

Love and All Good things…as you go through your day…As Cesar says…be a pack leader!

The Peaceful Matriarch
♥♥♥♥

Sunday, March 7, 2010

FULL MOM MODE

Saturday .
It was named no later than the second century for the planet (Saturn),[citation needed] which controlled the first hour of that day according to Vettius Valens. The planet was named for the Roman god of agriculture Saturn (Latin Saturnus). It has been called dies Saturni ("Saturn's Day"), through which form it entered into Old English as Sæternesdæg and gradually evolved into the word "Saturday". From Wikipedia

For me it is a day to transform from 'Career Woman' to Mom.

This Saturday was a spectacularly warm spring day. The sun was blazing in the sky and you could almost smell spring in the air. I noticed the pussy willows starting to bud on the trees in my yard.


I spent the morning with a Council of Women. Powerful, wise, unlimited Women. I started the day in a very high vibration!

I appreciate fully that Saturday is also a transition day. The kids, after having spent the majority of the week in school have to adjust to being around each other all day. I have to adjust to having them all together for the day!! 

We have strict guidelines in our house in regards to the use of electronic games. During the week they only get ½ an hour. Saturday they get an hour. However, the beds have to be made, the weekly chores completed, kids dressed, breakfast eaten. I keep trying to impress upon my kids that the sooner they get the ‘work’ out of the way, they have the rest of the day!

We go to the library every Saturday. I love being at the library. I always get more books out than I will ever read. However, the beauty is, you can grab as many you like on a topic, then, when you get home and have time, you can narrow the choice down to what you really want to read. I love to get audio books- 1 kid friendly for the car and 1 for myself to listen to during the week on my commute to work and clients. The kids load up on music cd’s and movies.

After the library we hit the beach! A beach covered in ice and snow, but a beach none the less! Lake Nipissing. I sat on the bench facing the sun. I closed my eyes and felt the undeniably seductive heat of the sun warm my face. I watched the kids throw snowballs at each other…they got bored with this activity after a few hits.  After a while they came and collapsed on the bench beside me and noticed the name plate on the bench. They asked why there were names on the benches. I explained that families donated money to the waterfront and in turn, were given a name plate. The names were picked by the families to honour someone they loved. I told them I had donated a piece of the TransCanada trail in honour of their Great Grandfather, Norman Clark.  A whole other conversation ensued about the TransCanada trail!  We moved from the bench to the lake.  We walked out to look at some interesting wind socks and fishing huts.  The novelty soon wore off and the 'can we go home now?' set in.

When we got home I made us some hot chocolate and we all tumbled onto the Great Round Couch to read. One of my kids got busy making brownies.....

All in all, a very good Saturn’s Day….

Love and All Good Things,    The Peaceful Matriarch

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SATURDAY CHORE TIPS:
(Note: We have four people who do the chores in our house- Ages 9, 12, 12, 50)
1. Divide up the house into sectors and determine how the rotation will be setup.  In our house, I divided the chores up as follows:
                      a) Upstairs dusting, vacuuming, floor sweeping/washing
                      b) Upstairs bathroom
                      c)  Downstairs dusting, vaccuuming, floor sweeping/washing
                      d)  Downstairs bathroom
 We used to rotate every week but there were too many arguments.  We put a list on the Fridge and we rotate every month.

2. Be clear about what your expectations are and gear the duties/expectations to the age of the child.  Do each chore with each child so they understand what has to be done.

3. Don't do chores longer than 2 hours.  I have found that any activity after 2 hours starts to make everyone cranky!

4. Buy rubber gloves for the kids and put their names on the cuffs in marker.

5. Use environmentally safe products.  I purcahse all my cleaning supplies from Melaleuca.  If you are interested in being a member of Melaleuca (etc) contact me.  It is easy and inexpensive to join.  Their prodcuts are amazing! http://www.melaleuca.com/

6. If possible/applicable,  keep the same cleaning supplies in the upstairs and downstairs.  This ensures everyone can get their chores done.

7. Let your kids keep their rooms they way they want during the week but make it clear to them when their rooms have to be cleaned up.  I tell my kids that by Saturday morning their rooms have to be cleaned up so we could get the other chores done.

8. We often put on music while we work.  It keeps everyone's vibration a little higher. 


Saturday, March 6, 2010

MOVIE NIGHT- FRIDAY

Friday Night, Movie Night is a long standing tradition in our house. I have never had cable or satellite TV. Therefore, movie night is extra special.



My eldest daughter is now 33. I have very found memories of renting a vhs machine and videos on Friday nights so we could watch movies together. The machines were big and heavy. Now here we are 30 years later with VHS a dinosaur, DVD'S Blue Ray- watching movies on satellite or the computer. The speed of change!


Our routine is SIMPLE. I make pizza- the kids swear it is the very best around! I have had many years to perfect it. I will put the recipe in a separate post. When my eldest daughter was young, we ordered pizza of course! It was a big treat. Greco's Pizza in North Bay, ON, Canada has the very best pizza around. http://www.grecospizza.ca/


My house is a 100 years old. The living room is in literally, the heart centre of our home.. We have a very cool couch that was constructed in the 1960's. It is a semi circle sectional with a big round coffee table that has a removable cushion. It is the perfect couch for our living room and for Movie Night because of its long semi circular shape. The Power of a circle!


While I am making the pizza in the kitchen off of the living room, the kids get into their pj's; bring down pillows/blankets and claim a spot on the couch. Whoever's turn it is to 'Set the Table', lays out the table cloth on the round stool (minus the cushion), sets out the napkins and pours out the refreshments. (Which stay safely in the kitchen!) The lights are dimmed, curtains closed. After some discussion, and sometimes arguments over who gets to pick the movie, Movie Night begins.


After our pizza and desert, we settle comfortably in. My youngest son, more often than not, snuggles up beside me and it does not take long for the warmth of his body to relax me. The cares and stresses of the week melt away and I peacefully surrender to the sleep that calls to me. It is a big joke in our house- I have seen the beginning and the end of many movies- rarely do I see the middle!


As my eldest son grew older, we would often watch a movie together after the younger kids had gone to bed. It gave us lots to talk about and discuss. Now that he is off to university, we no longer have the time together, however, we often share our opinions on movies we have watched.


I cherish these beautiful families moments-only a few hours but we are all together, but we can laugh, share, feel sad, and some times even a little scared. Family Tradition.


Love and All Good Things,


The Peaceful Matriarch
♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

TIPS FOR MOVIE NIGHT:

1. Your local library is a phenomenal source for movies- and free.

2. Members of GoodLife Fitness Clubs can rent movies under their membership for extremely low cost. In North Bay, ON, it is $5.00

3. Host a movie swap. Call your friends to come over for an evening or afternoon movie swap. After you have the swap, watch a movie together!

4. Set up a lending library with your friends. I highly recommend you keep a note book containing a record of who you lent the movies to. You should also come to some agreement as to what you will do if the movie is damaged. It seems easy but you do not want to have any hard feelings between friends.


5. Get your Jammies on! Get comfortable and cozy!

6. I do not allow my children to watch movies that are not within their age rating. Be careful when you borrow or buy older movies. The ratings have changed significantly. There are many of the older movies that were rated PG and by today’s standard should be PG-13 or more.

7. Popcorn is better than chips. A hot air popper or popping the corn in a pot on the stove…hmmmmm good.

8. I do not allow my children to drink pop. On special occasions I allow them to have Sprite or GingerAle. However, for some reason, I have always loved orange juice with my popcorn. The frozen orange juice that has to be mixed with water.

9. If you have more than one child and they are in the same age range, have them decide who can pick the movie. I have offered my kids suggestions- flip a coin; keep a list. I only allow them to watch one movie, on the rare occasion, two. My kids for the longest time wrote their “turn” on the calendar.


10. Start a Friday Night Movie Night with your friends. Take turns hosting.

SIMPLY LIVE, LIVE SIMPLY

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Tuesday is Laundry Day- Simply Mind Numbing or Not??

Tuesday is laundry day in our house. 
 I came home after working late. The house peaceful as the kids were nestled snuggly in bed. On the banister was a small square sticky note with large printing in marker. It said, simply, 'Mom laundry NOW.' I giggled!

There are several words in the Oxford Dictionary that define laundry:

Launder: verb wash and iron (clothes etc.) 2. To transfer (funds etc) to conceal their origin.

I suppose there is a connection. I mean we transfer the articles we are washing from the floor, under things, on things, in things, to baskets, bags, to the floor, to the machine, to another machine, back in baskets and then, hopefully back in their appropriate storage space. We wash the articles of clothing to conceal the origin of the need to clean them in the first place!

Launderette: an establishment with coin operated washing machines and driers for public use.

Laundress: I love this one!- A woman whose job it is to launder clothes. I wonder what men do if they do not have a woman to do this.

Laundry: noun A place where clothes etc are laundered; a business establishment that launders things for customers. 2. clothes etc for washing, especially those sent to or from a laundry. (yeah, defining a word with the word you are trying to define, please!)

I like Laundry definition 2- I am eagerly awaiting for the City of North Bay to install vacuum tubes from all the homes to the local Laundrette’s. I mean, think about it! Very energy efficient.

I used a Front End load machine when I was around 8 years old. This would have been 42 years ago. It took me 42 years to finally have my own Front End Load. (And no, I am not talking about investments or a piece of heavy equipment!)

When I was 8 my aunt AND my Grandma had Front End Load washers. One day I was helping my Auntie Marion do the laundry. She was giving me instructions on how to use her machine. She said, “Now, be careful of your….” Too late! My hand got sucked up into the ROLLER. No damage done. I was scared out of my skin though. I have provided you with a link to show you the model she used!  http://blogs.families.com/media/133380495-M.jpg

When I have to contemplate the laundry that never seems to end, I wonder at the lost art. I wonder at how time consuming it seems to so many of us now, but how can we compare!
My mother regales us with tales of having to wash the diapers for my brother (11 months older ) and I in a very small trailer in France. I hate doing the laundry almost as much as doing the dishes.

I have found tricks and tips to help ease the task.
This Tuesday’s Free Laundry Tip:

Find a good wash and fold service. In North Bay, Ontario, Canada, I take my laundry to Cindi at Algonquin Laundromat. http://www.canpages.ca/page/ON/north-bay/algonquin-laundromat/1614993.html

She is a god send! I love picking the clothes up from there- all nicely folded, sorted. And, the bottom sheets for the bed- how does she fold them so perfectly? Mine always end up looking like puff pillows! …makes for sitting neatly on a shelf impossible! Seriously, it is worth the money to have a wash and fold service do any large items. Also, if you are stressed with your schedule and the laundry is piling up, do yourself a favour. It is almost as good as going for a massage!

Love and All Good Things,   The Peaceful Matriarch